What The Last Year Has Taught Me
Sorry to burst your bubble but there will be no mentions of actual anecdotal lessons I learnt in the past year. But read on, it will all make sense.
You never know the value of a memory as you’re making it. The same can be said about lessons learnt. Coming into the new year and reflecting on the year that has passed, I’m sure we can agree that we all learnt lessons in one way or another. A lesson is typically learnt when we try something and fail. Or do something to someone that doesn’t like it and we LEARN from that experience. I feel unless you have extreme OCD and write down every experience and interaction, chances are you learnt a lesson or two at some stage and don’t even know it consciously.
If you were sat down and asked “what lessons did you learn”, I personally feel it’d be a hard question to answer. Some, who have experienced heartbreak or being fired from a job or something may be able to quickly tell you about the experience that taught them something. But on a day to day basis throughout the year, we were all continually learning and gaining new insight into the world around us. So no, I can’t tell you exactly what and everything I learnt or what lessons I went through in the past year. But I can tell you this – having been through situations that I may not be able to recall now, I’m better equipped to deal with the same sort of situation in the future, because subconsciously I learnt a lesson from it. So we passively learn from each experience and encounter we go through. And I think that’s incredible. Because if we didn’t and we had to consciously focus on learning from experiences, I don’t think a lot of us would learn much at all.
Equally as important are lessons I’ve learnt this past year so far. These are fresh in my mind and so I feel better equipped to actually give better advice here.
1. Self love. We’re our own harshest critics, but sometimes we need to take a step back and pat ourselves on the back for any achievements we might have reached.
2. Set goals. Let them be realistic and actively work towards them. Otherwise years will fly by and you’ll be in the same place you were 5 years ago.
3. Have a plan. Know where you want to go and what you want, and develop a game plan on how you’ll achieve it.
4. Show love to others. Everybody is going through their own battles, and so show kindness. A smile could alter the course of someone’s day for the better. Be a nicer person to others, and they may pay it forward.
5. Seek improvement. In various aspects of your life. Be healthier, be fitter, read more, write more, go out more. Do something that will make you better each day in your life.
6. Cut out toxicity. Let this new year be as stress free as possible. Cut out toxic people from your life. But that extends to self toxicity. Quit a habit that is bad for you – self harm / drinking / smoking , be less toxic to yourself and others.
Now as the year progresses I’m bound to learn other lessons.
But I’ll leave on this – be the best you can be, in whatever you do. That doesn’t mean compare yourself to the guy next to you, but be better today than you were yesterday. And tomorrow? Be even better. Take each day as it comes and don’t take life for granted.