From a race of men that have experienced so much inequality, it’s surprising to me how so many of my brothers hold poisonous views so dearly. The LGBTQ struggle is quite similar to ours. As a matter of fact, most struggles are quite the same. You always have a group of people that want to be counted as equals that challenge our views as a society. The women’s liberation movement made us realise that we don’t have it all that together as a society. We like to think of ourselves as civilised until someone disagrees with us.
What am I on about? Well, let me paint a little scenario for you. If you aren’t a black guy then ask one, I’m sure the result will be similar. What happens when you’re hit on by a dude? More often than not, these advances are met with anger. I’ve had conversations with a number of my people and the answer’s always the same: “Nah I don’t have a problem with gay niggas. They just mustn’t try that shit with me”. I’d always been under the delusion that it was mostly the older people that harboured homophobia. I’d always figured that their archaic views were just that: theirs.
I know what you’re thinking: “But GJ, my religion teaches me that they are evil”. The same books being used to justify homophobia are the exact same books that they used to dehumanise people of colour. I’m not going to go into the ancient texts though; I’ve done too much of that already in previous posts and pieces. Instead of upsetting you, I offer this counterexample as perspective: lesbians. If lesbian women decided to get agro every time a guy hit on them then I can almost guarantee that the same black men that have this “not with me” mind-set would be outraged. It’s almost like people are completely incapable of seeing the irony when it’s their views in question.
OK, so what’s the message here? Gay men come in all shapes and forms so the only way to find out if you’re gay or not is to ask you. Take it as a compliment; someone finds you attractive. It’s not an assault on your manhood. I’m not saying accept sexual harassment from every Tom, Dick, and Harry; every group has their asshole’s and the LGBTQ community is no exception. All I’m saying is that we need to be a little more understanding. We were once (and in some parts, still are) seen as subhuman so we should honestly be the first person that points out injustices. This is really disappointing.